What is the role of a mother in a family?

There have been some things that have happened in our home the last few weeks that has had me thinking of this question a lot.  When I think of some of the things that I do personally I come up with this list.

 nurturer

doctor

nurse

teacher

cab driver

cook

house keeper

homework helper

clothing washer

cheerleader

disciplinarian

etc....

Growing up there were a lot of things that I thought I want to be but the most important thing to me was that I wanted to be a mom.  I wanted to be a stay at home mom that would teach my kids their ABC's and 123's, as well as manners, how to treat others with respect, etc...  

After Justin and I got married I applied at SLCC to do cosmetology and just after I applied we found out that we were expecting.  We decided that I would put going to school on hold so that I could worry about providing and caring for the baby.  Our lives changed when Morgan was born everything that I wanted for myself was put on hold because I was now a mom with a precious little life to take care of.  My needs and wants were no longer important.  8 years and 3 babies later I am still wanting to go to school but for something different and it is still on hold.  Justin Graduated from ITT Tech in December and is currently waiting to hear if he got in to the University of Utah.   I believe that continuing your education after high school is important as long as it is done when the time is right.  

I know that I am not a perfect mom or person but I do know that the only place that I am suppose to be right now is with my kids and husband.  I could never imagine leaving them and not being with them every single day.  I could never imagine not being there when they are sick, or at bedtime routine, or when they hit a milestone in their life, or when they had a bad day and need to be held and be told that everything will be OK.  

I know that my priorities are different then other people and others don't feel the same way that I do but I think if you make the choice to be a mom then you are a mom first and an individual second.  I hope and pray everyday that I can be the mom that my kids need.   I will always put the needs, wants and safety of my kids before myself.  

I am grateful for my husband for everything that he does for me and our family.  I am grateful for each one of my kids and for the blessings that they are in my life.  I am grateful for trials that help make me a better person.  I am grateful for my mom and the example and support that she is for me.  I am grateful for all my family for always being there and for their love and support.  

 

Updated Family Pictures

Our little family tries to get family pictures done a few times every year but for the first time in the 9 years that  Justin and I have been married we got pictures done with his brother and sisters family.  They turned out great cause we have a pretty awesome photographer.   If anyone is looking for a photographer I will gladly share her info.  

Christmas at our house

This year we had a little visitor come to our house on December 1st and he stayed with use till Christmas eve.  He was sent from the North Pole to help Santa watch the kids.  We got a letter that said why he was here and that he needed a name because there are so many elves at the North Pole that he was just a number.  The kids decided to name him Alex.  Well Alex was a little trouble maker and got into a lot of mischief at night, here is what he did while he was with us.

Jackson

So we have this really cute 3 year old boy that really keeps us on our toes.  He has done some crazy things lately that people say we should write about it and one day we will look back on and laugh about it.  Since the girls went back to school and both of them are full day Jackson has been a BIG time mommas boy. Well Friday we went to our friends little girls birthday party.  As we were getting ready to go Jackson was way excited that we were going to a party.  His attitude changed once we got there and there were a bunch of people there that he didn't know.  He was very shy and didn't want anything to do with anyone but mom.

As the party went on he warmed up a little and started playing with the balloons.  There was a booth at the party that they were putting fun little hair extensions in the girls hair and Morgan really wanted to get one so we walked across the room to get it done.  I checked on Jackson and he was still happy playing with the balloons.  I looked again and Jackson was gone.

After Morgans hair was done we searched everywhere in the church and he was no where to be found so we went outside.  The lights were flashing on the van like the alarm had gone off.  One of the doors doesn't always lock so it can still be opened.  We think that he went to the van and opened the door and when the alarm started going off it scared him and he ran.  I then went into a panic I called Justin at school and my mom at a football game to come help.  People from the party stopped what they were doing to help us look for him.  I thought that there was a chance that he went over to the school or towards my parents house cause he knows where that it. So I took off running to the school while on the phone with the police.  My adrenaline was crazy, i'm out of shape running, looking for Jackson while trying to answer questions not an easy task.

A friend picked me up and we ran to our house to make sure he didn't go home.  As I was getting back in the truck I got another phone call (had about 15 within 5 mins from Justin and my mom) it was from a friend that lived behind us.  The cops had picked him up and he pointed out their house so they took him there to find out if they knew anything.

As soon as we got to their house the cops told me that he was running down the middle of 2nd east and some strangers tried to get him on the sidewalks and called the police and that was when he was picked up.  If any of you know the intersection of 2nd east and Kensington know that it can be busy at times.  Jackson managed to get across the street and run down the street without getting hurt.

Now that he is home and safe we feel that he had someone watching over him and protecting him.  I am grateful for our friends that left their daughters party, friends that dropped what they were doing on Friday night and got their cars, bikes or walked, for strangers caring enough to help him. I am grateful for the local cops, most importantly I am grateful for answered prayers.  

Counting our Blessings.

This pass month has been a struggle for us. We are working on getting out of debt and we have been feeling like we never have enough money to be able to get things paid off as fast as we would like. So we decided that we were going to work on it harder together. Justin decided that he would apply for every job that career services sent his way and just hope for the best. Wednesday he received a phone call about a job he applied for and set up an interview. Later that day he had the interview and then had mixed feelings afterwards about getting it. He was told that we would find out Monday after they did more interviews Thursday and Friday. Thursday morning still not feeling like he had a chance of getting the job we talked about just waiting to hear before move on to the next step. 15 hours after his interview he got a call and was offered the job!!

After hearing that Justin got the job and with Thanksgiving coming up I have been doing a lot of thinking about some of the things that I am grateful for.

First off I am thankful for my parents, for raising me and teaching me to be the person that I am today and for not killing me when I was a teenager. I am thankful for all their love, help and support that have given to me and my family.

I am thankful for Justin and for everything that he has does and everything that he is still doing to provide for our family. I am thankful that he is making a huge sacrifice to work 2 full time jobs and go to school part time so that I can be home to raise our kids.

I am thankful for each one of my kids for making my life exciting and keeping me on my toes.

I am thankful for all of the test and trials we have had. Although at the time I am not very thankful for them I really am because they have all taught us a lesson in some way that we have needed and brought us closer together as a couple and a family.

"You know, I try not to look back, because looking forward is so much better then looking backwards" - Jim Bakker

What a summer!

Well this has been one crazy summer with a lot of changes. Morgan started first grade, Brooke started preschool, Jackson started putting himself to sleep in his own bed, Morgan learned to ride her bike without training wheels a few months ago with the help of her Bompa. Brooke decided a few days ago that it was cooler to ride with only two wheels instead of four so she told her dad she was ready. We took off her training wheels and without any help she was gone. Jackson realized that if he pedals his bike he can get there fast instead of just walking it so he learned how to pedal.

We had SEP's with each of the girls teachers and found out that Morgan is being sent to a second grade reading class and she scored way above average on the dibbles test. We also found out that Brooke is also above where they would expect her to be with her writing, tracing and counting. Her teacher told us that is stuff that they don't really see till about January after months of learning in school. Jackson is getting to the point that you can almost have a full conversation with him and understand him. Jackson loves to play with toys and other kids but for some reason we can't get him to do that in nursery.

Justin is still going to school and doing really good. He just received another award for high honers at school. Finally got another raise at work and staying very busy with work, school and a family. I started applying for school so that I can get a good job once all my kids are in school and what better time then now to get it done.

Justin and I just celebrated our 8th wedding anniversary and 2 birthdays. We are looking forward to celebrating 2 more in the next 2 weeks. We are also looking forward to Halloween,

Anthony coming home in November, Thanksgiving, another birthday, Christmas and New Years.

We finally after a year got family pictures done again. We are excited to get those back and we will post as soon as we have them.

Dad

Wednesday May 25, 2011 Justin's second dad passed away. Alan Wicklander was an Amazing man! Alan was a great example to Justin and when he found out that Justin wasn't a member and that he was wanting to become a member Alan made the appointment with the Missionaries and opened his home so we could have the lessons there. Alan took Justin under his wing and showed him so much support. Justin was Baptized November 29, 2008. After Justin joined the church Alan was the Young mens president and he called Justin as the second counselor. November 29, 2009 Justin was made an Elder. December 4, 2009 Justin and I went through the Temple and took out our Endowments with the Wicklanders there supporting us. December 5, 2009 we were sealed together as a family with the Wicklanders there supporting us again. Alan will be missed but we know that because of his love and support we will see him again someday.

(Alan and Anna are the couple at the top right)

Alan is in a better place with a healthy heart and he is on the other side waiting for the rest of us keeping himself busy teaching and loving others so that they can have the same blessings that we have. Families can be together forever!